Child Welfare Agencies – Why Are They Often NOT Looking Out For The Chldren?

Something that seems pretty much universal no matter where you look in the country, on the continent, or even in the world, is the state of the child welfare agencies. Though they have names like “Child And Family Services of *insert place*”, they seem often, unaware or blind to there objective, the protection of children they are looking out for.

There is no shortage of big cases that make the national news, such as the Phoenix Sinclair (  http://www.google.ca/?gws_rd=cr#bav=on.2,or.r_qf.&fp=5b02d6e7fbf95d8c&q=phoenix+sinclair ) case out of Winnipeg. The ones that end nastily, always get the most media attention.

But what about the rest of the children?

I will be honest up front, this is a full on rant, that may or may not be mainly about a certain child welfare agency in my local area.

In any case, when it comes to the foster care system, and being in such a home, the picture that pops into my mind, is of a nice family home situation. Maybe a single parent or a couple, with adequate means to support a child, who has done all they can to show that they can be a good parent(s). And after adoption, my idea is that the agency can drop by for surprise visits, just to ensure that all is well.

But it seems that, possibly more often then not, such a common and sensible situation, just, isn’t the case in reality.

Take one person whom I know. They were put into the foster system, because there biological single parent was having trouble when it came to discipline of the person at the time.
Though the parent tried to lay down the law of the house, the daughter would flat out refuse to follow, and pretty much made there own rules. So the parent reached out to the child welfare agency, both for help with the disciplinary situation,  and because they had some other issues of there own at the time, that was affecting life in the home.

And so the daughter was sent away, and placed into a foster home (a family of 3, one son), which at the time looked to be an ideal and nice place.

But as time moved on, cracks appeared in the facade.

The family also had in there care, at least 2 other girls, and they all shared the same room. At least one of them turned out to be a thief, so nothing of value could be left anywhere in sight or where it could be found. The parents were apparently lazy a lot, choosing to opt for fast food as opposed to cooking at home (im not against a treat every so often. But most of the time? No.). And one of the parents was a chain smoker, and insisted on smoking in the house.

It culminated one day, when  the kid had an entire paychecks worth of cash on them, and the parents refused to take them to the bank to deposit it securely. As a result, one of the other foster girls got a hold of it. And by the time they found out, it was  spent. The kid never got that money back.

Looking back, it becomes obvious that the parents interest  was more about getting the regular check for each kid  then it was about looking out for there well being.

Had there been surprise visits, that may have weeded these bad apples out.

But the problems of the child care system, do not just stem from inadequate supervision of foster homes and parents. Even the homes run by the personnel of the organization itself, can be a nightmare.

I know one person who grew up in such a group home, but turned out alright, but it seems he is a minority of sorts. I do not know his whole story, but I have a few of my own, having lived in the vicinity of one such place for much of my life.

A decade or so ago, a family bought a home on a quiet street in a nice neighborhood for a fairly good price, considering the size of the home and the land. The area was all around nice, but the home was situated next to a big 2 story place, which turned out to be a group home for troubled youth.

In the first few years, there was much friction between the kids of the home and the neighbors. Partly fueled by the words of one of the members of the organization, who stated that once the kids are off the property, they are not responsible for there actions.  Which is frankly, FUCKING retarded.
Considering that if I committed a crime off my home property, my parent would be still responsible for me.

In any case, for the neighbors, after years of playing tag with higher ups in the organization, and eventually getting the home phone number of one of them, suddenly a fence was erected around the property.

This did a lot to solve the problem, since it gave more privacy then the tiny picket fence of old.

In recent years however, the problem changed.

Instead of the kids being the biggest problem, it went to the councilors. Just in there dealings with the neighbors alone, many of them are fucking MORONS.

I know someone who has been in an almost constant battle with them, and there assholery.

Mainly with there inconsiderate nature, of taking a shoveled parking spot in the front of the home next door, because they don’t bother to shovel out there parking areas, front or back. Its actually quite amusing to watch, because though the councilors try and use the same assholery on this guy as they do on there kids, the guy can be just as much of a prick, right back.

Its the most hilarious thing, and I bet the kids LOVE it.

And I have heard some interesting things, just from overhearing conversations within the yard of the place, all late in the evening.

I have heard the kids confronting there councilors for there immaturity, and rightfully.

I have heard the kids knock on the door of the place, sometimes for 30 or more minutes STRAIGHT, asking to be let in.

I have heard the kids begging to be let in to use the bathroom (a girl), then after awhile, overheard them say “thanks a lot, I pissed in the garden!”. Something tells me that this would fall under child abuse, for any other parent.

If the majority of the councilors are fucking jerk offs like this, its really no wonder that many of these kids turn out on the wrong side of the law.

JESUS FUCKING CHRIST, I can not contain my disdain for the useless fucking organization that is supposed to be looking out for kids around here. Seriously, FUCK YOU you bunch of ignorant unintelligent fucking PRICKS!!!!!!!!!!!

Now that thats out of my system, we can talk solutions.

Though each area of the world has different specifics, what I will go though below, should be interchangeable.

First of all, foster parents need to be checked a LOT more then they are being checked now (if they are at all). And there should also be communication with the kids, so that the parents don’t just present a facade. A minimum number of foster children one can care for at a time, may also be helpful (weed out those just out for the extra money).

And when it comes to the group homes and other such settings, once again, get the fucktards the hell OUT of there. Its no wonder many kids  grow up fucked up, if thats the bullshit they put up with.

And after that clean up is done, revamp the whole way the system works. If the kids are calling the place a home and living there, then why are the councilors there, running on shift work? Its no wonder they don’t give a fuck much of the time, they see it as a 8 or 12 hour job.

Get rid of the shifts, and start having them working in say, 1, 2, 3 day intervals. Have more then one, so that they can spell each other off and sleep. During that time, they will actually “live” in the place. This should do 3 things:

1.) Give them a better attitude, because if they start something, they are stuck with the consequences for more then a short time.

2.) Help them grow more appreciative of the neighborhood and its inhabitants.

3.) Weed out the people only working for the check, or out for the power trip.

Is this doable? I don’t know.

What I do know however, is we can sure as hell do better then we are now.

Waitress Gives Mom Free Pizza For Breastfeeding

Waitress Gives Mom Free Pizza For Breastfeeding

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According to KCCI 8 News in Des Moines, waitress Bodi Kinney is the woman behind the note on Johnson-Smith’s bill. “We need to come together and support each other when it comes to nursing our children,” Kinney told the news station in an interview.

Clearly, others agree. As of Thursday morning, the receipt had been shared over 2,000 times on Facebook. This comes on the heels of Hollie McNish’s incredible defense of breastfeeding in public that went mega-viral. Yes, folks, it looks like we might finally be getting used to this.

This is a very nice gesture from the server.

I fully agree with the subject, I have no problem with breast feeding in public. When I do not agree with something I see, I do the simple thing, and ignore it. Look away, change the channel, scroll on over the post onto the next one. With freedom of speech and freedom of expression, nothing irks me more then people that try to censer there surroundings judging only on what offends THEM.

Freedom is a 2 ways street, though many people seem to forget that.

Breast feeding does not really fall into free speech OR expression, but it is still the same in a sense. It is a harmless activity, but it could be considered “offensive” to some. So the message to those people is the same as my message to anyone who gets offended by my (or others) posts, actions or other media . . . . . . . . . . . LOOK AWAY!

Children

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CONTENT WARNING: If you have kids, you may not like what I have to say. Take it up in the comment area. But don’t expect to change my mind.

The topic of children is one that comes up more and more in my life these days. When I look around, many of my friends from school already have youngsters. Being only 24 (going on 25 in June), I would have thought it to be a bit young, but it’s a personal choice (though sometimes, an unwanted surprise. But as long as they are good parents. That’s all that matters 🙂 ).

But I (as you may have already guessed) do not have kids. And I decided that I don’t think I ever want to have a child.

Of course, given my situation at the moment, it’s not likely to happen anyway lol. I’m far too busy with trying to subsist in life, to worry about the pain in the ass that is dating. Not to mention the other emotional baggage I’ve accumulated over the years (my imaginary semi-trailer is full LOL).

Though the topic does not often come up, when it does, I tell them truthfully. And like many of my other conclusions in terms of different topics, most don’t understand the “Why”. They say stuff like “You never know, that right person might come along . . .”, which is alright. But when it comes to my reasons for that decision, I am not always entirely honest (depending on the person).

George Carlin (Rest in Peace Old Fuck 🙂 ) says pretty much all there is to say when it comes to my attitude towards having children (maybe not so much my attitude TOWARDS children. But not too far off either LOL).

At the moment, for me personally, they would be a financial expense that I am not ready for. And they would be an expense on my mental health that I’m not yet ready for.

And looking at the big picture, they are an expense on the planet’s ever-dwindling resource base (especially those born in the western world). Those born into westernized nations fall into the consumption trap, from a young age get suckered into a life of consumption by marketers. And not just the fast food and new toy ads between cartoons, but even built INTO many of today’s plotlines (mainly the Christmas specials, as mentioned in my previous entry, “The War On Christmas“). And it’s not just children’s shows (think of the sitcom shows where A gets in the doghouse for forgetting to buy his wife an anniversary gift).

And to be born in the 3ed world is to be likely born into poverty, starvation and an early demise.

There is WAY too many humans alive already (not even mentioning their over-consumption on a MASSIVE scale). This is why I am of the opinion that the way the governments of the world currently deal with children, is in a sense, wrong. Well, not with children in themselves, but more, parents.

Many governments offer child tax incentives to parents, often for each child. This is the part that I disagree with.

My first reason, being how the system is abused. Though not many do this (I should hope anyway), it’s easy for a couple to have many kids, just for the money. In this respect, you can guess that the money isn’t always going to be used for the well being of the children. Which makes both the contributing taxpayers and the neglected children in such homes, the losers.

Then there is the whole idea of spending within your means. I can get myself a credit card with a million-dollar limit. But if I spend myself up to that limit, and suddenly realize that I can’t pay it back, no one is on the hook but me. The government is not going to issue me a weekly or monthly check, to help ease the pain of my stupidity in financial planning.

Though arguably not a direct comparison to the situation of having a child, it’s close. When a child (or children) are brought into the picture, one should automatically assume there will be financial obligations right from the start. Right from the beginning, diapers and formula are not cheap. Neither is clothing/accessories, nor food, and a million other expenses that any parent can add to this.

I should mention that I am not totally against gov’t assistance of parents in ALL cases. Considering my childhood upbringing, I would have starved without such assistance. But the effort must be met halfway, or a valid reason must be provided if not. For example, for a couple that is working hard, but still having financial troubles, it’s alright to help out. An exception to the working rule could be if there is a disability that prevents the parents from working (the case of my childhood).

The parents that should be affected, are mainly those that abuse the system for their own self-interests. But also those that feel entitled to the funding (whether they can afford a child otherwise or not), just because they have a kid.

For this one, the first thing that comes to mind is a Facebook status update from someone I know. They had just given birth and were angry that the hospital had charged them $400 for the use of the bed (or maybe it was the ambulance ride, not sure). Either way, they had the “entitled” attitude, which irked me.

At the time I saw it, it was fresh with no “likes” or comments (and I didn’t comment. It better that way lmao) and I didn’t bother checking the commentary since. But I thought to myself, it was a decision between you and your partner to have sex. So why is it that I and other taxpayers are automatically expected to foot the bill?

And when it comes to supporting those children, my attitude remains the same. One should treat children in the same way they treat an expensive item (like a luxury car). Feel free to have a child, but be sure you can afford it.

But of course, in life, there are things you may not see coming. Shit happens. And one may end up with a child that was unexpected, at a time when one is not really ready for one. It happens. So long as ANOTHER child doesn’t suddenly come along that they can not afford, I see nothing wrong with helping out.

For me, one of the biggest reasons that I am against the idea of a child is its future. At the moment, we are still in great shape in every way. There is enough food to keep the stores full, enough fuel to keep the public happy, food and energy still being relatively abundant enough not to be a worry.

But, consider how much of your life is tied up in fossil fuels. Oil, natural gas, coal. And also metals, as they play a prominent role in our lives (think of everything from the aluminum food/soda cans to the electronic gadgets in your home).

Now, consider that all of these things are finite. There is only a certain amount of these things easily available for extraction from the earth. And we have been getting more and more industrialized (therefore, consuming more and more) of all these things, for the past 1 to 200 years. And now, our society is as hungry as ever for these finite materials, especially energy (oil/gas/coal). But the low hanging fruits are almost (if not totally) gone. And what’s left will from now on be increasingly harder to access, and process (would offshore drilling be necessary if oil were readily available in easier to reach places on land? Would there be such a market for tar sands bitumen <fuel that takes MORE energy to process than what is obtained in burning it!> if there was no shortage on the horizon?).

Not to mention, the climatic hangover that our past fossil fuel use has left us with. Whether people chose to accept facts or NOT, climate change IS a very real threat to mankind. We now I suspect are just beginning to see the effects. Because of the delayed reaction of CO2 in the atmosphere, the CO2 that is affecting the climatic system now is likely that of which was burned years ago, by people who have long since died. But we are now pumping out more than ever, per person and as a whole (humanity).

As I mentioned before, I am 24, going on 25 in June. At the moment I am questioning what the planet will look like, within MY lifetime. I’d like to put on the rose coloured glasses of ignorant bliss I once had, but I can’t anymore (once reality tears them off your face, one can’t put them on, no matter how hard u try).

So, knowing that we are heading into a  number of shortages of key materials such as water and petroleum and its bi-products (also affecting food, as much fertilizer is petrol-based), I can not personally justify bringing a child into the world. And I wish that all will think long and hard, about your decision to have a kid, knowing that the consequences affect everyone in the end.

 

P.S

I wasn’t sure exactly where I could fit this into the entry before, so I will add it here. My opinion, that to be pro-fossil fuel and pro-industry, is to NOT be pro-life. This is aimed mostly at republicans, but if the shoe fits otherwise, wear it or make it fit.

Anyone who has paid any attention at all to politics in the US for the last few years likely knows about the republicans, and what they stand for. In recent years, they have followed the religious route, and thus are pro-life, anti-abortion and even to a degree, anti-contraception (think of the over-the-counter morning-after pill backlash). They are also very pro-industry, and very keen to stick with the old way (fossil fuels).

While the full effects of global warming are still coming, the vast majority of the scientific community agrees, it is happening. The signs are pretty much EVERYWHERE if you choose to look. Unlike all the worries of now such as the state of the economy, the dollar etc, global warming could very likely wipe mankind off the face of the earth.

And even if global warming does not fully pan out, the after-effects of “deregulation” and allowing the industry to self regulate could very well be the last straw. There have ALREADY been massive amounts of damage on account of deregulation (consider the Deep-water Horizon blowout, and the West, Texas explosion).

So if you are pro-fossil fuel, DO NOT tell me you are pro-life. Because you are NOT.