Real Men Don’t Hit Women – Double Standards

Real Men Don't Hit Women - Double Standards

You may have seen this (and memes like it) going around your favorite social media site or where ever. I understand the reasoning, to condemn the violence against women. It is a worthy cause.

But I disagree with THIS particular meme, as it sets up a potential double standard. An unspoken one that goes with this, is the false assumption that the male will always be the instigator of violence.

Abuse is never right. And I know that since males tend to be the more dominant ones in the relationship, they are more likley to be abusive then the reverse. But this is not an absolute rule.

Though largely unheard (partly BECAUSE of this double standard!), females can be abusive to males. These little meme sends a message that, no matter what, a women is sacred, and should never be hit.

Frankly, BS.

Self defense is justified in any situation of abuse.

Its time to get rid of this double standard, and the everlasting stigmas (eg: a man who is abused by a women is weak) that just perpetuate this form of abuse further.

Abuse in ANY form, is terrible. If you are favoring one form of abuse, but willfully ignoring another because of bias, you are not helping the situation.

End of discussion.


In this entry, I will tackle any issue that gets a fair share of air time, but not from an angle that you are used to.

We all have heard of cases of abuse in terms of husbands against wives, boyfriends against girlfriends etc (domestic/dating violence). This form of abuse is by far the most prevalent, so it only makes sense that it gets the most attention. But there is a fairly small minority, yet none the less an existent minority, which is MALE victims of abuse.

Female vs Male violence is rare, for relatively obvious reasons. Men are, for the most part, stronger than women, so, therefore, are more often than not the aggressors in a violent situation. For this reason, men are responsible for sexually assaulting women far more than they are for men.

But no matter how rare, sexual assault IS sexual assault. But male victims are almost never treated equally (or for that matter, taken as seriously) as female victims.

For one, a male caught in an abusive relationship with a female, may keep quiet, due to the fear of the authorities (and people in general), not taking them seriously, and/or considering them weak. And when it comes to female vs male victims of sexual assault, males may be inclined to stay quiet, because the whole thing may be thought of as a joke, something funny.

The moral of the post is, though male vs female abuse may make up the MAJORITY of the cases, do not assume that only males are capable of such crimes as domestic violence or sexual assault. Male victims of sexual assault are NOT a joke, and male victims of domestic violence are NOT pathetic, or weak.

If we are to ever hope to help victims of violence, we must not exclude some, based only on their gender.